We can all agree that toddlers are exhausting little creatures.
And pregnancy takes it out of you, too. At least it did for me.
Now…combining the two…wow.
Of course, this will be different for everyone. This is my personal experience of being pregnant while raising a toddler.
A rough road ahead.
In the beginning, things were SUPER hard for me. My husband, Josh, was working crazy hours to try to catch up on bills and I was puking almost constantly.
I became so dehydrated that I spent 2 days in the hospital for constant fluids. I couldn’t even stand up without almost passing out.
I could hardly clean my house. Josh got overwhelmed with having to do everything and this caused a few arguments between us.
And this was only the pregnancy side of things.
Enter the toddler.
I felt like a horrible mother to our son. I wasn’t able to get up and play with him like I used to. I’m sure that confused him. I also wasn’t able to stomach cooking hardly anything.
I would make him sandwiches and microwave meals because the smell of the stove and the oven made me puke. I wanted to avoid that as much as I could.
We watched too many movies in the beginning since I was not able to get up to do anything. We would lay around all day and not accomplish much. I always felt terrible about so much screen time pretty much all day long.
Before Maddix was potty trained, changing his diapers was nauseating. Sometimes I would have to grab the trash can in the middle of a diaper change to puke. Remember, I was very sensitive to smells.
I remember that Maddix wanted to be like mommy, too! I was puking into a trash can instead of the toilet. With how much I was puking it was not even realistic to go to the toilet every time.
Maddix starting taking his big dump trucks and spitting drinks into them. That was very hard to break him of doing that.
And, of course, playing was pretty much impossible.
Having excruciating back and hip pain is very difficult when you have a toddler. They don’t understand that your back is hurting like hell and they want a piggyback ride or picked up.
Independent little people.
We used this time to teach Maddix to be more independent – for our own sanity and for his own good.
We taught Maddix to be more independent in several ways.
The first big step for him was getting in and out of his car seat by himself (not buckling and unbuckling). He learned to craw in and out of his seat. This helped a TON during family trips!
Next up was POTTY TRAINING!!! Once we hit the potty training nail on the head it took Maddix about a week to catch on completely. We were amazed, and once he was potty trained it made everything so much easier!
We also started having Maddix walk instead of carrying him. We used to carry him out of convenience to make trips move faster. This, of course, made outings a little longer but it was easier on my back and arms. Now Maddix holds my hand and walks beside me instead of me carrying him. Plus he REALLY enjoys being able to walk like a big boy.
It’s not all bad.
With the challenges, remembering good things is difficult. But there are good things to consider, especially as a toddler becomes more independent.
We’re excited that our kids are going to be close in age. This was something Josh and I talked about before we had any children. We always knew we wanted them to be close.
Another thing I love is watching Maddix learn about his sissy. He gets to listen to her heartbeat at our doctor’s appointments. He even got to see her during an ultrasound once. He likes to talk to her, and listening to him say “I love you sissy” makes my heart melt.
Once I hit my second trimester, my morning (all-day) sickness FINALLY subsided and I was able to get up and do things.
I was able to get up and clean my house, I was able to cook for my family again and I was able to play with Maddix again. Of course, this sometimes resulted in me getting stuck on the floor until Josh rescued me.
Every experience is different.
Some moms have babies closer together, or further apart, or only one! Every experience, every pregnancy is going to be different. But being pregnant with a toddler has several unique challenges.
Some of the challenges and joys that I’ve shared are probably unique to me, but I know that several of them are common – I asked around!
So, what are some of the unique experiences that you’ve had being pregnant with a toddler in the house? Let me know in the comments!